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  3 dating tips from a woman who went on over 30 dates in one year

  Having more than 30 dates in one year can lead to two things: In the end you will be have gotten into a routine and grow rapidly bored with uninspiring people and you will know what it takes to win others over. The following 3 tips will teach you how to master a date and win someone over.
  
  #1 Be attentive
  This can be pretty simple. Be attentive to the person you're chatting up right from the beginning. That means starting with the first message if you're getting to know each other through online dating. Never wait too long to react to a message. If you are unable to or don't have sufficient time to respond to a long message, then send a short message. Along those same lines, nothing kills the mood like short and choppy replies So don't just reply with "Good" when someone asks you how you are doing. Instead, tell them what you are actually up to.
  
  On the date itself, give your date your undivided attention when they are speaking. Avoid interrupting them. Discuss the addressed topics and don't just take over the conversation and hold a mnologue. Everyone likes to be heard and appreciated. So make sure that you maintain a balance and everyone speaks an equal amount. If your date is shy, a few specific questions will help. Pay attention to what he/she likes. You can then delve further into these topics.
  
  #2 Look well-groomed
  This probably goes without saying, but showing up to a date showered and groomed shows the other person that you value them and have made yourself look beautiful especially for them. It is rude to subject the other person to an unpleasant breath or body odor. Women are particularly fond of men who smell nice. That doesn't mean you should douse yourself in aftershave either, as this can have the opposite effect.
  
  #3 Humor
  Humor is the supreme art of flirting. After all, you're not sitting in a job interview trying to sell yourself to your future boss. So be relaxed and demonstrate that you know how to have fun. The first date isn't the time to plan out the next decade of your life together. Just try to figure out if you and the person sitting before you are on the same wavelength. If they laugh at the same things as you, they might be a good candidate for a second date.

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  What to look for when browsing dating profiles

  Many dating profiles look promising. The profile photos are great, their hobbies exciting, and their self-description makes them seem irresistible. But despite all this, you end up on a disappointing first date! Learn how to avoid this right here.
  Photos in particular can be very misleading. If the self-description contains little text, it can be tricky to assess the person properly. If they get in touch with you, it's a good idea to ask them about their hobbies and their take on life. Don't just rely on a nice photo, instead try to get to know them a little better before considering a date.
  
  More than a nice photo
  
  But a photo can tell you a lot about a person too, of course. The kind of photo they choose tells you a lot about a person. Has the user opted for a photo in which they are smiling and look relaxed? Or do you see someone in a tense pose, sitting on the sofa at home, at worst? Does the person photograph themselves with status symbols, such as a car, luxury vacation, and a nice wardrobe? Or do they have other friends or acquaintances in the pictures? Depending on your own preferences, you may feel attracted or deterred by this. What should definitely deter you is a stoic, grouchy facial expression, a chaotic-looking home in the background or an ex who has obviously been cropped out from the photo (almost like a place-holder for the next partner). Because being with such a person will make you unhappy sooner rather than later.
  Make sure that the person in the photo looks well-groomed and has chosen a tidy or neat background as a backdrop for the photo. This also demonstrates that the person probably also leads tidy life. If someone chooses a photo that includes a previous partner, that might mean they are a co-dependent person who does not have a life of their own outside a partnership. Otherwise they would have posted photos in other situations that the partner does not appear in.
  
  The self-description
  A user's self-description is always worth a closer look. More just a photo, it shows you who is behind the profile. Many users make demands on their potential flirt partners, such as: "Not interested in Insta models, only write if you're smart and successful." This kind of description shows that the person has preconceived notions about other people. They can definitely be speaking out of past experience, but such expectations can make them fail to see other people for what are. An Insta model can also be someone with a great personality who simply likes to share her experiences and zest for life with others, and who has built a successful business on top of it all. Furthermore, no one is forced to respond to the advances of a member who does not meet their expectations. That's why such an openly expressed rejection of certain characteristics or a life path is rather off-putting.
  On the other hand, users who describe their strengths without making a big fuss about it and also mention what brings them joy in life, seem to be people-magnets. And rightly so! This kind of person is happy with him/herself and sees a partner as a way to add to his/her happiness.

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  Dating tips - how to find the perfect date

  Dating tips are a dime a dozen. Some are helpful, others are not. Nevertheless, there are some dating tips that generally lead to success. You can find out what they are in this guide.
  
  Enjoy your life
  
  Perhaps one of the most important dating tips is to enjoy your life whether you have a partner or not. This is no doubt often easier said than done. But it's still extremely important. That's because unhappy or frustrated people are not necessarily everyone's first choice. It really shows when someone is dissatisfied with themselves or their lives. Therefore, it is important to regularly treat yourself to little happy moments in your everyday life. Whether it's enjoying a cosy evening on the couch or working out in the gym several times a week. Do what makes YOU happy. This is how you will magically attract other people who will want to share in your happiness.
  
  Remain authentic
  
  Which people do we like best? Those who are themselves. For this reason, it is also essential to remain true to yourself when looking for a partner. Besides, in the long run, it is no use to pretend to be something you're not. The moment of truth comes at some point in every relationship. If you have pretended your way through the relationship until then, the disappointment will be even greater.
  
  Dating tips for everyday life: Keep your eyes open
  
  Love often hits you unexpectedly. So keep your eyes open when you're seeking a partner. No matter if you're going to the bakery for bread rolls or waiting in line at the supermarket - it is theoretically possible to meet a suitable counterpart at any given time. It doesn't necessarily always have to be at the club or a party. If you are short on time, it might also be worth considering the ever so popular world of online dating. It it easy to integrate it into your everyday life and offers numerous opportunities to meet others. Apps or portals are ideal for this.
  
  Get social during your free time
  
  It is rather unlikely that your perfect partner will knock on your door one day. So spend your free time in social settings where you can meet new people. You can get a sports club membership or participate in a continuing education course. On a practical note, if you meet your love here you will already know that you share common interests. As is well known, this builds the foundation for happy long-term relationships.
  
  Don't seek desperately
  
  Maybe you've already heard that trying too hard can be counterprodutive. Is it true? In principle, yes. Because just like negative auras, stressed seekers tend to have a deterring effect on others. Better any partner than none at all - this kind of thinking quickly becomes apparent when you have a tense attitude. And who wants to be an option? It is better to adopta relaxed attitude when searching for a partner. At the same time, it also takes away the pressure of having to find a partner. This kind of attitude actually makes you more attractive in the end - Especially in the eyes of people who are commonly referred to as dream partners.

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  Dating tips for 2020

  Living in the age of dating apps, speed dating, and flirting workshops means we have more and more ways of finding the right partner. Read on to find out the most important flirting, dating, and post-date etiquette for 2020.
  
  6 Dating Tips to give your year a much-needed boost
  
  The following tips can help make dating in 2020 easier and more exciting at the same time:
  
  #1 Being direct scores points.
  If you'd like to have coffee with someone, feel free to say so. "I'd like to go out with you/Do you want to grab a beer?/Would you like to come to this event?" If you don't want to slip into a virtual penpal friendship on a hip dating apps or website, you'd better go all out and ask for a meeting within the first few message you exchange. There is a lot of competition on dating portals. Anyone who hesitates is quickly discarded in favor of another option.
  
  #2 Don't do too much too fast.
  Announcing that you have already fallen in love after the first date or bombarding your romantic interest partner with messages when you're not getting an equivalent reaction can quickly become too much. We're not suggesting you wait three days before answering a call or message, but a little restraint can't hurt either.
  
  #3 No games or lies, please!
  Playing games and telling lies are almost as old as dating itself. And they still generate two things above all else: disappointment and frustration. If you pretend or you invent exciting stories to seem more interesting, then you will be missing out on a lot of possibilities. Even those who use so-called clever methods to make the other person fall in love or at least stick by your side for a while do not create a positive situation. If in doubt, always ask yourself how you would like to be treated and act accordingly.
  
  #4 No means no
  And so does a lack of response. People often have a hard time refusing additional dates or rejecting a person with a direct "no." Therefore, it is important to know how to interpret and accept the signs. What is called "ghosting" is none other than good old ignoring and hoping that there will be no arguments and no scene. Respect the rejection and ask for a reason on time at most. But don't pressure the other person. This will benefit neither of you.
  
  #5 Listening
  People have always wanted one thing more than anything else well before the invention of datings apps or text messaging: To be heard and understood. Unfortunately, this happens pretty rarely. So set yourself apart from the rest by listening actively. Ask questions that are not just about work and exciting vacations. This is the only way to establish a real connection.
  
  #6 Opt for variety rather than luxury
  Going out to eat in a fancy restaurant naturally has its appeal. But when you're going on first dates and getting to know someone, it's better to spring for a little variety. Visit different places, go for a walk, have a picnic or visit the zoo. Having these outings will help you get to know each other much better and awkward conversation lulls either won't occur or will quickly get filled.

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  The best ideas for a first date

  You have met someone on an online dating portal and would now like to see them face-to-face. The first date can be a beautiful and long-lasting memory. Follow these tips to ensure that your first date will be a complete success.
  
  The Location
  
  How about some pedal boating? Instead of the usual coffee or restaurant dinner, you can spring for something a little different to create a lasting memory. There are various outdoor summer activities you can do in this sense. For instance, a round of mini golf can also make for a great afternoon. In winter you can visit an exhibition or attend a concert together and get to know each other. This provides the perfect conversation topic.
  
  Take it easy
  
  Don't go on a first date with too many expectations. Follow the motto: Everything is possible, nothing is mandatory. Avoid the pressure of expectations and look forward to a nice afternoon or evening. If it doesn't work out, at least you will have had a new experience. Accept a "no" and only say "yes" if you really want to. You can't go wrong this way.
  
  Be yourself
  
  What do I wear? Which hairstyle should I choose? Should I wear make-up or not? These are the kinds of questions that run through any woman's mind before a first date. Men can feel just as unsure about how to present themselves too. The answer is very simple for both: Be natural. Imagine you're going out to spend a nice evening at a good bar or restaurant with friends. Wear the clothes you like. Put on as much make-up as you feel comfortable wearing. And do your hair as you please. Be sure to treat yourself to an extensive beauty ritual in advance. If you are freshly showered and well-groomed, you will feel confident and comfortable in your own skin.
  
  The right conversation topics
  
  Give your date a special touch by foergoing the typical status-checking questions about job, hobbies, and family. Think of a few special questions for your date. For example: "What would you do if you woke up in the body of the opposite sex one morning? You can find many examples of such questions online.

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  Use these words for a sucessful first date

  Once you've planned a date with someone, you'll most likely have 100 questions going through your head. One of them is especially important: What am I going to say? Even if you can't practice for a date, there are still ways to prepare yourself. Over the next few lines, we will offer you some tips on finding the right words to say on a first date.
  
  Plan your date menu
  
  Instead of memorizing sentences, just have some topics you want to touch upon on your date. This will sound more natural than a using a line you've jotted down because you heard it goes over well. Just get a feel of your dating partner and go from there.
  
  As a starter, personal interests are a good choice:
  
  "What do you do for a living?"
  "What books do you like to read? And which film genres inspire you?"
  "Are you artistic?"
  "Do you have exciting hobbies?"
  "Things can get a little more personal during the main dish:
  
  "What achievement are you proud of?"
  "Do you follow your head or your gut?"
  "What would you surprise me with?"
  "Are you spiritual?" As a side dish, you can serve up the following questions:
  
  "What is a very formative experience you've had in life?"
  "What are some huge blunders you've made?"
  "If money wasn't an issue, what would be your true calling?"
  "What's the funniest experience you've had so far this year?"
  
  For dessert, you can be more daring:
  "Do you have piercings or tattoos?"
  "Are you more cautious or daring?"
  "What bad habit would you like to get rid of?"
  
  And for the grand finale, a good question would be:
  "What would you like to do most next weekend?"
  
  What to keep off the table
  
  Avoid talking about yourself a lot and without pause. Talking about yor ex's or discussing provocative topics are also taboo on a first date.
  
  Post-date message
  
  If you had a good feeling about the first date, then send a little text message afterwards. An honest "I hope to see you again" can't go wrong. Even compliments are well received. Women are happy when to receive acknowledgement about the great energy they give off. Men are too, but it's better to opt for something like: "I like how determined you are on your path!"
  
  Offer a little glimpse into your everyday life to keep things going: You can occasionally (!) send a little text with a photo showing what you're up to.
  If things already got a little intimate on the first date, you can use that to create tingling sensations: "I can still smell your scent..." or "Looking forward to a hot bubble bath now!" Discreet messages are also the most successful ones.

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  How to score points in online dating

  Online dating offers great opportunities to get to know a partner. If you haven't had any luck on an online dating site yet, it is certainly not because there is no suitable partner for you out there. Go over your profile and adjust different aspects of it. Keep in mind that your profile is the figurehead with which you attract attention. Add some personality to it and showcase your strengths. That will increase your chances of meeting someone great for you.
  
  Tips for your profile
  
  Take your time remaking your profile. Make sure you present yourself in a lively and, most importantly, honest way. Display your strengths and your weaknesses. Think about the character traits you really have. Ultimately, it is less about pleasing everyone and more about finding the one person who really suits you.
  
  Describe your strengths and weaknesses honestly
  
  It is important that you describe your strengths honestly. If you portray your personality as something it's not, this will come through on the first date at the latest. It's better if to take a deep look at yourself. What are your authentic characteristics and which ones would you like to show? Ask a family member or friends who are close to you. Ask for an honest opinion. Keep working on your self-description until you are absolutely satisfied with it. Also make sure you stay positive! If you have high expectations of a future partner, it is best not to mention this in the description. This can only have a deterring effect.
  
  Choose natural photos
  
  Select a photo in which you look absolutely natural. Do not edit the photo too much. Make sure that your hairstyle and, as the case may be, your make-up look natural. Go for a casual look. The more natural you look, the more likely you are to find a good match. If you edit your photos, then you're setting your date up for disappointment the first time you see them.
  
  Define your expectations
  
  There is plenty of space on your profile to describe what you're looking for. Make use of this space and stay completely honest. If a potential partner knows what you want from the beginning, this can only work to your advantage. In the best case, your wishes will match with theirs. This is the best prerequisite for a harmonious partnership or an exciting new acquaintance.
  
  The first date
  
  If you have revised your profile, you may not necessarily be flooded with messages. But it might help you meet someone you find interesting and want to know more about.
  
  The first date is subject to the same rules as the profile: Act natural and authentic. Do not disguise yourself. If you are shy, you are welcome to come across as such. And if you like to laugh out loud, do so if the situation is appropriate. Talk a lot about yourself, but don't give away all your secrets. The first date should always occur in public. Choose a restaurant or café in a larger city to get to know each other first.

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  How to become a dating pro in just 3 steps

  A relationship can be so beautiful - we just have to get through the process of meeting, getting to know each other, and dating. This can be tough because nervousness naturally occurs in most people and that is exactly what makes us stutter and get sweaty hands when dating. So how can we avoid breaking out in a sweat when reaching out to someone for the first time? The following three steps show you just that.
  
  Step 1: Boost your self-esteem
  
  If you like yourself and are satisfied with yourself, you will feel more secure and also more comfortable around your partner. But how can you raise your self-esteem? Although this varies from person to person, there are some common factors. These include:
  
  Caring and pampering:
  A well-groomed and healthy appearance clearly show that we are worth the time and effort. If you treat yourself to a massage every now and then, a special care product or a relaxing bath - in short, if you care for yourself and pamper yourself - you can definitely gain self-esteem.
  
  Become aware of your achievements:
  Everyone has achieved something in their life or has developed certain strengths. Taking care of others, making people laugh, academic or professional success - whatever you can be proud of - are all things you should remind yourself of, especially when you are nervous or feel incapable. You have surely already faced greater challenges than talking to someone or inviting them out for a coffee.
  
  Maintain interests and relationships:
  
  Step 2: Start small, be honest and genuinely interested.
  
  Do you find it difficult to approach people you find attractive? You are definitely not alone on this one. Instead of making up supposedly cool pick-up lines, just rely on the following steps to achieve dating success:
  
  Start small:
  If you find it difficult to interact with unknown people, then practice. Work up the nerve to engage in a short conversation at the checkout. Smile at strangers as they pass by. You will soon find it easier to strike up a conversation with others. Dating should also start small. You don't have to immediately go on a date with someone who makes you super nervous.
  
  Why not start by meeting people who you simply like? You can practice dating in a relaxed way and maybe even make some friends or at least some nice acquaintances.
  
  Be honest:
  "Hello, I've seen you here a few times but I just couldn't bring myself to talk to you" is definitely better than a sophisticated pick-up line. If you are shy, just admit it. If you don't know what to say, use this as an opener. "I'd love to have coffee with you sometime, but I just don't know how to ask you." It's simple, honest and to the point.
  
  Show real interest:
  When we find someone attractive, we often notice the little things about them. But true interest only shows if it goes beyond outer appearance. Practice becoming a good listener. Listen carefully and ask questions. Hardly anything is as pleasant and attractive to people than someone who is a good listener.
  
  Step 3: Add some excitement!
  
  Exciting and varied activities have certain advantages. For example, doing an activity tends to alleviate nervousness. It is also a way to create memories and have more fun. When adrenaline levels rise, attraction also increases.
  
  Darts, pool, bowling, mini golf, board games and co. provide entertainment. There won't be room for awkward pauses. Even if you wind up losing, it will give you and your date something to laugh about.
  
  How about a beginner dance lesson or a short cooking class with a professional chef? A drive-in movie theater and a picnic can revamp the traditional date.

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  Tips for the perfect dating profile pic

  A perfect dating profile picture should create a "wow" effect. Given the massive amount of profile pictures on a dating portal, the competition is fierce. Therefore, in order to be convincing, your photo should be consistent right down to the last detail. Women and men judge profile pictures completely differently. Some criteria apply equally to both genders. If you want to have a perfect online dating profile picture, there are a few points to consider.
  
  Pay attention to your expression and put yourself in the limelight the right way
  
  Women in particular like to take selfies. It makes sense to ensure that the room in which you photograph yourself looks tidy. As a man, it is a good idea to take your dating profile picture outdoors to show women that you like to stay active in your free time and enjoy being outdoors. On the other hand, photos taken on the sofa in the living room look staged and women perceive them as unattractive. For both genders, the background should look as simple as possible so that the picture is not overloaded.
  
  Having a smile on your face looks attractive. It suggests open-mindedness towards new acquaintances. For women, a smile is part of their beauty ideal. Men who have a friendly face radiate openness and satisfaction. A wholly natural smile makes your profile picture irresistible and leaves a good impression on the opposite sex.
  
  Adequate clothing and a well-groomed appearance
  Whether sporty or elegant, clothes make the man. Your clothes say a lot about your personality. As a woman you can wear almost anything you like. Dresses and high heels look particularly sexy in a full-body photo, for example. Men can also present themselves in a suit. This shows women that you are successful. Nevertheless, there is nothing wrong with wearing your favorite outfit. Men with a white T-shirt and jeans achieve a neutral effect.
  
  One of the most important ways to attain the perfect dating profile is a well-groomed appearance. Before the photo session, take some time to calmly perform your beauty ritual and style yourself. In addition to a well-groomed appearance, you should also wear clean clothes. This will give off the impression that you have a handle on your life and can also care for and appreciate all sorts of things.
  
  Look into the camera
  
  An upright, relaxed posture is very popular. Straight shoulders and a self-confident stance portray a goal-oriented expression. Also seek eye contact with the camera by looking directly into the lens. This creates a feeling of closeness and makes you appear attentive.
  
  Remain true to yourself
  
  To get the perfect dating profile picture is by no means a complicated matter if you follow the above tips. Essentially, it is important to always remain true to yourself and avoid pretending in a photo. For example, if you never use make-up, do not start doing it now just to get a good profile picture. The same is true for photographing yourself next to a celeb or an expensive car.

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  How to make a great impression on a first date

  There are few things more exciting that meeting a new person face-to-face for the first time. You have already exchanged a few messages, you've seen a picture of the other person, maybe you've also heard their voice. But now things are getting real: a date is about to take place. Here's what to pay attention to so that it doesn't become a fiasco, but a pleasant experience for both parties involved.
  
  Punctuality is the ultimate show of politeness
  
  Even if you generally consider yourself to be quite relaxed about time, it is very bad manners to make your date wait for you in a café. Being on time for a date is not old-fashioned. In fact, you'd be stealing the other person's time by making them wait. So you'd better stick to the old adage: Punctuality is the politeness of kings. Go be a king or queen on your first date!
  
  The first visual impression counts!
  
  As a woman, you may want to offer your date something to stimulate his appetite. You can do this with a plunging neckline or a very short miniskirt. But don't forget: men are also romantics. So leave some things things to the imagination to give him a taste of what remains to be conquered. As a man, you are also welcome to treat yourself to a wellness treatment before your date. Make sure to show up well-groomed and freshly showered.
  
  No-go: Too much alcohol
  
  Yes, sitting across from a stranger can be nerve-wracking. You have the right to be nervous beforehand, and you may continue feeling that way at the beginning of the rendezvous. But no excessive alcohol consumption! Alcohol may well loosen the tongue, but it can turn some people into hopeless fools. Nothing can be more disgusting than someone who repeats himself constantly or suddenly becomes sentimental and starts raving about his ex. So at most, you should rely on alcohol to help get you in the right mood. A glass of wine helps. It also gives you something to hold on to. Consuming a lot definitely doesn't help much here. It's better to keep a clear head.
  
  Ask, ask, ask!
  
  There are very talkative people and then there are the reserved, rather taciturn ones - and of course some in between. If you like to talk a lot, you better hold back a little today. It is better to approach your partner with questions that signal interest. This does not have to be a therapy session with questions like: "What was or is your relationship with your mother like?" It should start with simple things, like aksing about the latest vacation. This always leads to further topics, such as your favorite travel destinations, your favorite food, etc.
  
  At the end: Show interest
  
  You had a lot to talk and laugh about, you discovered similarities, your partner visually appeals to you...In that case it's very imporant to not just say "See ya!" and leave. Express your desire to see them again. This applies to both men and women. Because this way shows that you enjoyed the date. But you should not immediately push for another date: "Do you want to come to my sister's birthday with me the day after tomorrow?" Saying this can be counterproductive. You have to give them a little time to think about it. Additionally, a text message after the first date is a good way to tell them how much you enjoyed meeting them.

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  How to use dating apps if you are aged 50+

  Who said dating apps are only for digital natives who were supposedly born with a smartphone between their hands? It's certainly not true. Online dating apps offer many advantages to those over 50. After all, at this age you are far from being over the hill. You've probably reached the peak of your professional life and use a smartphone and tablet both professionally and privately - so why not for dating?
  
  The search for a partner is different after age 50
  
  Statistics published by dating agencies demonstrate what you look for in a partner changes as you grow older. Both sexes seem to share a concern for being alone. However, while women tend to look for partners of the same age, heterosexual men prefer younger women. The different approach leads to a limited success rate.
  
  Even if the age difference does not play a decisive role, further discrepancies come to light when you get to know each other. Men aged 50+ plus are rarely interested in starting a (new) family. They may be getting out of a failed relationship and already have adult children. For young women who do not have a family yet, however, the desire to have children can definitely be an issue.
  
  What this means for your dating app is that you should narrow down the age group in a way that makes sense for you. Not too narrowly though, or you might unintentionally exclude potential partners. For example, women should not be afraid of younger men. But don't set an unrealistically wide age range either, otherwise you may be let down in your expectations for a common future. Dear men, please do not look for a potential caregiver on a dating portal.
  
  Both parties should address the topic of children and family at an early stage. Not on the first date, because this meeting only helps you determine whether you are both ready for a second date. But if you are looking for a long-term, serious relationship, you must clearly outline your general conditions as rapidly as possible. Otherwise you will just be wasting your time.
  
  Partner search via Photoshop
  
  Humans are visual creatures. We take in most of our information visually, and the first impression is often decisive. Many apps take advantage of this fact by removing partner suggestions or not pursuing them any further if the user has not looked past the first photo on a profile. Even if dating apps are no longer the first choice when you are older and you look past visua appearance in your search for a partner, you should still place value on a meaningful profile picture. Don't be ashamed of wrinkles or age spots, resist the temptation to turn your life-shaped face into a faceless nothing.
  
  Show yourself as you are. This also applies to clothing and surroundings. A photo from your professional life or of you pursuing a hobby is perfectly okay if the picture is technically okay too. Your face should take up the main part of the picture, be sharp and correctly exposed. A relaxed smile is good, but a posed studio shot looks bland. You find your dog or cat more beautiful than you? It's best to keep pets out of the photo. Psychologists have found out that a pet can unconsciously trigger jealousy in the viewer - like a cuddly toy as a substitute partner.
  
  Use premium features
  
  If you still haven't felt a spark after the tenth date, remember that sparks may not sparkle but only glow as you get older. It's not that sexual attractiveness is no longer important, but it is no longer the main driving force. Many couples who have been happy for many years now say that they did not fall in love at first sight. So stay on the ball and follow up on contact suggestions that seem more like a second choice at the outset.
  
  Some functions in the apps are subject to a fee, but the financial investment can pay off. Firstly, there are more opportunities for self-expression and more information about potential partners. Secondly, you will meet people who are also serious about searching on the app.

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  How to get better at online dating

  Online dating is currently one of the most popular ways to find a partner. The principle is to search and be found. But what if this simply does not work? In this article we give you tips on how you too can become more successful at online dating.
  
  Choose your online dating username carefully
  
  The first impression counts. In online dating, this is often your username and, depending on the platform, a profile picture. Therefore it is important to choose both carefully. Ideally, you should go for a natural look. Also note that user names are subject to trends. You should avoid following these if possible. Invented names are fine, but must be chosen with care. Honey Bear or Sweetie92 have a completely different effect than Mikey.G or nathaliA.
  
  Set up an appealing profile
  
  Your profile should contain the most important information about you as a person in addition to the matching user name. Write this in an appealing way. People's attention span is usually shorter online. Therefore you should get to the heart of the matter right away. Nevertheless, don't be too general but emphasize your personal advantages in a charming way.
  
  Your profile picture serves as a first impression. It often decides whether a contact is established at all. Do not edit the image too much. Better stick to the truth - by the first date at the latest, you will find that nobody can hide behind their Photoshop skills any longer. Also make sure that you are easily recognizable in your picture. Group photos are not a good choice. Perhaps you have a photo that shows you practicing your favorite leisure activity? This is ideal because it provides additional information about you at first glance.
  
  The right words in online dating
  
  Opinions are divided in terms of what's best when it comes to word choice, so there are no specific guidelines. As a general rule, however, it's best to use emojis as sparingly as possible. You should also pay attention to using correct spelling and punctuation. Because messages full of mistakes quickly become irritating. Just like in real life, it is important to remain authentic. Patience is also a magic word in online dating success:
  
  Don't be impatient
  
  Why do so many people use online dating? One of the reasons is the lack of time to find a partner between the office, household, and family obligations. What about you? As paradoxical as it may sound. you should take your time getting to know someone online first. If the chemistry is right while chatting, the next step is arranging a phone call or meeting in a neutral spot. Going on countless dates with online acquaintances is not necessary. After all, the idea of quality over quantity applies here too.
  
  Don't give up if your online search for a partner takes a little longer. The old adage that says good things come to those who wait also applies to online dating.
  
  Good luck with your partner search!

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